Last week my husband turned 30.
We have been talking about when we turn 30 for months, probably years. People tend to act like a certain date will change everything, right? I’ll start Monday, I have to do this by December 31st, I’ll be debt free when I turn 30. We all say these things. But really, that is exactly what it is, we just SAY it. But what do you actually do to get you there?
I am a very visual person, I love writing – especially writing lists!
I love to see what I need to do, then, what I love even more, is drawing a line through the things I have already done. I do this every single day. I always have a daily to do list, but I have noticed in the past year (leading up to both of us turning 30) that daily to-do lists are redundant and not very productive at all. OK; I got laundry done, dinner made, a blog post written, kids to school, went to the gym, studied and did research and had a great call with a client… then it’s the end of the day! BORING! I packed my day so full of “every. day. to. do.” stuff that I failed to look at the bigger picture and add the things that will help me get there. Sure, these things are necessary, but what if I added one task to get me to my BIG goal?
You know the saying “if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten” (also, the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results) Unfortunately, I think most people are walking around clueless to the fact that we are wasting this precious time we have here. AND, the best part… if we just slow down, make a plan and implement it, we will take away the pressure of all of those boring to-dos and we will be excited because we will be hitting our goals and making progress vs just going day to day with the “I should…” attitude.
So, anyway, back to the birthday party! I was in the middle of getting dinner finished, talking with our family that was over to celebrate, we had a game of cards going, it was crazy in the kitchen! (the best kind of crazy!) Emma walked in, got everyone’s attention and asked us to go into the living room because she wanted to do a concert for her Daddy’s birthday, so we all found our seats and got quiet. She had her little pink rock-star guitar over her shoulder, Easton introduced her and she walked onto the “stage”. (a blanket they laid out on the floor) Then she got really quiet. People started saying “it’s OK, you got this” and “don’t be nervous” but she wasn’t listening – at all. She was in the zone. She was nervous and scared.
Her smile just got bigger and bigger and then she started her song.
Just like that. She knew what she wanted, she took a minute to breathe, and she nailed it! She faced her fear with pure courage. I was almost in tears. (not because the music was so amazing, although she did keep a decent beat and come up with some awesome lyrics on the fly) My heart was filled with pride and joy and I saw myself in her. Not because of the guitar (if you know me, you know I have NO musical ability – at all) but because I want things, big things and I am scared.
I am scared I will fail, I am scared people will judge me, I am scared I might screw things up, and to be honest, I am scared I might succeed. (am I ready for that!?) I know that I need to work on these goals every. single. day. But, I get scared so I start working on something and then that little voice creeps in and I don’t follow through or I just do “busy-work” (hey, no one knows but me – right?)
Why is it that we are so quick to let ourselves down but heaven forbid we might disappoint someone else!
I am a huge reader and researcher, I love a good course or training. In fact, I am in school right now! I enrolled in IIN last month and I am taking 3 courses from Mariah Coz! I am always sharpening my skills and I know what I need to do to get me to the place I want to be! (you know, when I turn 30 ;)) And, I have started taking action. I re wrote my goals, I brain dumped EVERYTHING that was in my head. How to get there, steps to take, what to do 1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc. The timeline I need to implement, what do I need to do today, this week, this month, next month and so on. I wrote an entire plan to keep me focused. And let me tell you, it makes me feel SO uncomfortable. I am terrified. But I am doing it.
Lets be real… I do what I want!
Always have. Always will. The only difference is, now I am doing it for the world to see. (literally, I started broadcasting on Periscope on Monday AND announced it on Facebook, there is NO way I’m going to be able to keep it a secret or quit without people noticing, especially since you are also reading this now!) And I have started hosting webinars. These are both live, interactive platforms where I really have to put myself out there. (deep breath)
2016 is going to be your year.
On to bigger and better things. 2016 is going to be the year I help other people make it their year. My goals are big, but attainable and so are yours. I have been researching and living a healthy lifestyle for almost 5 years now. I know I can help other moms do the same thing! I wish I would have had someone who could show me the baby steps, in the right order and help me through the transition into better choices and show me that change is good, and give me the courage to act on it. I not only am that person now for so many, but by stepping outside of my comfort zone, I can be that person for thousands more!
What is something you would love to do, but are too scared to act on? How are you going to make 2016 YOUR year? I would love to hear in the comments or tweet it at me! While you’re at it, join me live on Saturday when we discuss how to stay (or get) healthy for the holidays!